Find Out Why She Gave Her Husband Permission to Cheat on Her
The issue of cheating spouses has been around since the creation of marriage. The question of why has been around just as long. Recently a new question has emerged. Why women allow their husbands to cheat?
In a recent interview, a couple from Leeds, West Yorkshire, UK admitted that Amy Jones, age 30, has given permission to her husband Ryan, age 32, to sleep with other women. Amy, a mother of two, confessed that after the birth of each of her children her libido disappeared. Before the birth of their children, Ryan and Amy had an active love life. Understanding Ryan’s needs, Amy suggested that Ryan sleep with other women until her libido returned. After the birth of their first child, Amy’s libido returned after about a year. Since the birth of their second child late last year the couple has not been !nt!mate. Amy states she has strict rules when it comes to Ryan’s activities:
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• Amy must be made aware of who the other woman is.
• Ryan must practice safe closeness.
• Ryan must not make love with anyone more than once.
• Amy must be given every detail immediately afterward.
• If there are text messages or emails involved, Amy must be allowed to see them.
The arrangement has worked nicely for the couple in the past. When Amy’s libido returned after their first child, they were able to pick up $e*ually right where they left off.
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So the question of “Why?” remains. Why would a women who is exhausted from becoming a new mom allow her husband to sleep with someone else? Even further, why would a loving husband leave his wife and children to fend for themselves while he goes and finds pleasure elsewhere? Amy claims she would rather know Ryan is getting the release he needs. She doesn’t want to feel selfish by “leaving him hanging”.
By examining the history of mating we understand that all female mammals choose their mates based on genetics to ensure they have the “best” offspring. That being said, women are motivated to keep their husband and his genes all to herself. In addition, women tend to be more territorial when it comes to her spouse and what he has to offer. Male mammals on the otherhand, are largely polygynous, meaning they have more than one female partner or spouse. So while the idea of more than one mate makes sense to a man, why are women like Amy and others proclaiming their willingness to let their husbands stray?
It’s possible that once a woman’s needs are being met (children, financial stability, etc.) she is more likely to emotionally accept her spouse fulfilling his physical elsewhere, when she no longer has the desire to do it herself. For most women, maintaining a relationship with her spouse is about filling an emotional need and creating stability for her children. As long as a woman knows exactly what’s happening with her family, she feels capable of dealing with whatever may come her way. When her spouse lies as well as cheats, the issue becomes less about lovemaking and more about trust.
So maybe women like Amy have the right idea. While this type of arrangement would not likely go over well with many wives, there is still something to be learned regarding spousal communication and how it can impact the longevity of a marriage. Remove the fact that Ryan is lovemaking with other women and what is left is two people who love each other, discussing everything with each other, even the deepest most !nt!mate parts of themselves.